A Melissa matter: Birds of a feather ...
by MELISSA SNYDER
Nov 08, 2010 | 2756 views | 0 0 comments | 23 23 recommendations | email to a friend | print
Most of us can recall a time when we were warned to choose our friends wisely. “You are the company you keep” is something we’ve all heard. The meaning behind this is two-fold; we are often judged by who we associate with and the people we hang around with can and usually do have an influence on us.

“Birds of a feather flock together,” another well-known saying, means the birds you flock around with are a reflection of your personality and display the caliber of person you are.

Did you know people tend to perform to about the standards of the people they associate with? Some say if a moral individual spends his or her time around people of low moral character it’s only a matter of time until they begin to display low moral character behavior of their own.

On the flip side or the “good side” you could say ... if they spend time with positive, happy people they will begin to not only display cheerfulness but will truly become more joyful.

We hear all the time about teenagers in trouble who are said to have been good kids who ended up with the wrong crowd. If we can get children to understand — at a young age — how important it is to choose their friends carefully and wisely it would save a lot of frustration and heartache.

Some psychological science studies say we start becoming like the people we spend time with. Without knowing we can pick up their habits. Even hanging around someone who is negative much of the time can affect us.

I know some negative folks who at one time I spent a lot of time with. Most every conversation with them was negative — sometimes fearful. I found their negative comments started to influence me. I guess their negativism was rubbing off on me, so to speak. When I left their presence I felt drained of energy. I noticed how my thoughts were affecting my behavior even.

Listening to a message from Joyce Meyer one day got my attention. She said when we are in a friendship or relationship where we are no longer affecting each other in a positive manner but are “infecting” each other it is time to put some distance between. The topic of her message was designed around how powerful words can be — whether good or bad.

The greatest book in the world advises us on keeping ungodly company. In the Bible in I Corinthians 15:33 it clearly tells how bad company corrupts good morals. Several scriptures in the Bible say the same thing. It is the Bible’s way of giving us a clear and precise warning about the ones we allow in our lives. There are several examples in Proverbs, loaded with wisdom, on how associating with ungodly people results in unfortunate circumstances. The Bible is very detailed and easy to understand: If you keep bad company, the Bible says your good morals will be corrupted. In other words, you will then become like the company you keep. Throughout the Book of Proverbs, we are given wisdom about what happens when we keep company with ungodly people. If you’ve read it then you are aware the result is always unfortunate. If you haven’t read it or if it has been awhile, why not read it again? The Bible encourages us to enjoy every day and that life should be enjoyed every day. A good place to start is Philippians 4:8. “Whatever things are true, whatever things are honest, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”