WRIGHT WAY: Enduring a hostile world
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There is no question that we live in a world with violence and hostility all around us. The injustice we read about and watch on the news makes many people angry.

As tensions mount over concerns about the economy, social and racial injustice, and governments not meeting the needs of the people, it only takes one false move — one wrong comment — to be at the center of a violent altercation.

This is true not only in public, but inside one’s own home. According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, each day, more than 600 calls are received to escape family violence.

Statistics on domestic violence reveal every 9 seconds in the U.S. a woman is assaulted or beaten, making it the leading cause of injury to women — more than car accidents, muggings and rapes combined.

In one study on domestic violence at the University of Florida, Dr. Angela Gover, a UF criminologist, said, “We’re seeing women in relationships acting differently nowadays than we have in the past. The nature of criminality has been changing for females and this change is reflected in intimate relationships as well.”

An online article in Psychology Today about living with an angry partner, stated, “The biggest challenge of living with a resentful or angry person is to keep from becoming one yourself. The high contagion and reactivity of resentment and anger are likely to make you into someone you are not. The second biggest challenge, should you decide to stay in a relationship with a resentful or angry person is getting him or her to change.”

The article, by Steven Stosny, concluded by stating, “Because your partner cannot recover without developing greater compassion, the most compassionate thing for you to do is insist that he or she treat you with the value and respect you deserve, if you are to stay in the relationship. You are most humane when you model compassion and insist that your partner do the same.”

Management consultant Margaret J. Wheatley said, “When we can lay down our fear and anger and choose responses other than aggression, we create the conditions for bringing out the best in us humans.”

Who better could advise an angry world on how to “create the conditions for bringing out the best in us humans” than God Himself?

To survive an angry world, millions of people start the day and end their night by approaching God in prayer and asking for guidance, direction and peace.

Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Don’t worry about anything, but pray about everything. With thankful hearts offer up your prayers and requests to God. Then, because you belong to Christ Jesus, God will bless you with peace that no one can completely understand. And this peace will control the way you think and feel.” — Contemporary English Version.

Have you kept praying for this peace from God? Ask Him to help you act in harmony with your prayers. Then too, why not turn the odds in your favor by incorporating some expert advise on controlling anger? Here are a few anger management tips from mayoclinic.com:

1: Take a timeout: Before reacting to a tense situation, take a few moments to breathe deeply and count to 10. Slowing down can help defuse your temper. If necessary, take a break from the person or situation until your frustration subsides a bit.

2: Get some exercise: If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other favorite physical activities. Physical activity stimulates various brain chemicals that can leave you feeling happier and more relaxed than you were before you worked out.

3: Think before you speak: In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to say something you’ll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others in the situation to do the same.

4: Identify potential solutions: Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Remind yourself that anger won’t fix anything, and might only make it worse.

5: Use humor to release tension: Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Don’t use sarcasm, though — it can hurt feelings and make things worse.

6: Practice relaxation skills: When your temper flares, practice deep-breathing exercises. You might also listen to music, write in a journal, exercise or read the Bible.

7: Know when to seek help: Consider seeking help for anger issues if your anger seems out of control, causes you to do things you regret or hurts those around you.

Yes. We live in an angry world. It’s all around us. But it doesn’t have to be inside of us. Even if it is, it doesn’t have to manifest itself in violent actions or hostile words.

As Psalms 4:4 says, "Don’t sin by letting anger control you. Think about it overnight and remain silent." — New Living Translation.

Instead, God's Word at Ephesians 4:31-32 recommends, “Let all malicious bitterness and anger and wrath and screaming and abusive speech be taken away from you along with all badness. But become kind to one another, tenderly compassionate, freely forgiving one another just as God also by Christ freely forgave you.” — New World Translation.

In an angry world Christians are wise to be ever mindful of 1Corinthians 7:15: “God hath called us to peace.” — King James Version.