People who bring negativism into our life and who fill us with drama, dread and negativity keep us in the mud. Deciding to step out of the mud is our choice.
I love being around people who have stepped out of the mud — who are grounded and free of drama.
It has taken some time, a long time if I’m completely honest, to learn how to live a life fairly drama and mud free. It’s been a learning process for me that’s not always been easy.
I’m saying all of this to say it’s possible. With some work everyone can get there. By first realizing we can’t fix everything and no one is perfect, the burden of trying to fix everything for ourselves and others is relieved.
Second, be completely honest. Being true to yourself may sound simple but it’s not as easy as one may think in a world where trying to please others is the norm. Many times it is in our best interest to stay clear of those who have an abundance of unhealthy drama or are constantly gloomy and negative. Unfortunately the world is full of people like that.
Decide how you want to be. How do you want to live your life? I chose to live it surrounded with friends and family who are committed to the positive character traits of kindness, self-discipline, respect, honesty and fairness. Life is much nicer with bona fide, authentic people who encourage us and uplift our spirits with a boost of positivism.
When it comes right down to it, we may have to cut people out of our lives. For most of us, it’s not junior high school anymore. Most of us are mature and don’t have to be associated with others because we are insecure or fearful like many teens are. As adults we can choose to spend our time — what little of it we have — with those who inspire and encourage us.
We have the right to hand pick our friends and cut out what isn’t good for us. It may not be easy, especially if the negative people are connected to another friend or family member, but create or design your own personal prescription for a drama-free zone. If you’re committed, you can achieve it. The best plan I’ve found comes from the Bible. The King James version is “But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.” The New American Standard, which I like is, “But let your statement be, 'Yes, yes ' or 'No, no,' anything beyond these is of evil.” I translate that to mean all the rest of the jibber-jabber in between is unnecessary.
All of us are entitled to live a happy life. If it means ridding the drama, by all means, squash it!